I hope you find what you are looking for here. I am happy to answer any question you have at any time.
If you are here because you are trying to satisfy a craving you haven’t quite been able to identify
you are not alone.
Maybe you feel like the job isn’t working. Or maybe it’s the relationship. Perhaps it’s time to move again. Or change your diet. Perhaps therapy? But you don’t really feel like you’ve got a “problem” per se…
You just need to figure it out. Figure something out.
I want to let you in on a secret that may make you feel a bit better.
You know those people whose lives you’ve lusted after? The ones that seem like they’ve got it all together? I’ve talked with those people, listened to their stories and guess what?
They’re just as scared as you.
They question their decisions, they struggle with feeling satisfied and wonder if they’re doing it right. They wrestle with regret. They fear the effects of success just as much as the effects of failure.
I know it sounds unbelievable, but it’s true.
We’re all doing the best we can. There is a lot of stuff out there that celebrates being busy and stressed and at the edge of your sanity because that’s where you have to be to achieve what you want, right? The only way to really earn it is to “go it alone,” right? Ehhhh…maybe not. This belief is painfully isolating and extremely stressful for our human nervous systems. Everyone struggles. Denying this fact is not serving us personally or the people around us.
Guilt, pressure, and comparison seem like they are worthy motivators but they are the fastest way to shut down solutions.
Perhaps you work well under pressure, but I am willing to bet that you can’t live every aspect of your life that way and not somehow feel like if you trip up for a second that everything is going to come tumbling down around you.
If you are holding on so tightly that if you let go, it’s all going to fall apart, then I have news for you: What you are doing is not working.
I have spent the last decade of my life figuring out “the answer.” I’ve read the books, I’ve taken the courses, I’ve flown all over the world, I’ve talked to the experts. Because I hate struggle and I hate feeling like I don’t know what I’m doing and I was determined to be the first person to discover the antidote.
Did I find the magic pill? Nope, it’s not something you can simply take in the morning and forget about. It’s a lifetime practice. However, the solution is very simple and anyone can do it.
This is why I started Uncommon Zen.
I wanted to create a space where people could come to learn about how to better deal with their hectic lives and to be inspired. I write regularly on my blog. I work one-on-one with people that want customized help. I play on social media to make myself available to anyone that’s interested.
Because I know livin’ ain’t easy. But it’s worth it. It’s why we keep doing it. Let’s make it work better for us all.
Thank you for being here, and please, reach out to me if you have any questions.